Is Bribing Children Okay? - Healthbiztips
Is Bribing Children Okay? - Healthbiztips
Bribing your children is the quickest way to get it all done. It's easy but costly. Sure, it can't drain your wallet dry, or could it?
Bribing sounds like a bad thing to do. Have it ever crossed your mind what this escape goat act does to a child's psychology?
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@healthbiztips by Arlene Gentallan
Now, let me clear off misconceptions about this topic by saying that bribing a child to behave nicely or get something done is catastrophic to your child's mental development.
When parents bribe their children, they're basically telling their kids to act negatively the next time and only stop the bad behavior when they are bribed with money, a toy, or a treat. I'm telling you, you'll be amazed at how fast most children learn.
Respect and Responsibility
Come on parents, seriously, how do you expect your children to grow as a responsible and respectable adults when you're training them to receive bribes at such a young age?
You parents, how do you expect your child to respect you when you're giving them bribes. It's poor parenting. It's really bad.
I know it could be tough to deal with the screaming, crying, and temper tantrums. I understand most parents want an easy way out of this. Often, bribing has become the norm so parents fail to question this tactic.
The thing is, bribing children gives them a false sense of entitlement. Let's get real, when you grow up, having a temper tantrum is not a legitimate way to earn a living. The world doesn't owe you anything. You have to work for it!
Come on, the world has enough self-entitled people.
That's what they're supposed to do
We all have to do something because it's the task that we have to do. You know. ...do homework, finish a project, behave nicely, eat, drink, sleep.
A bribe is the thing you give a child to do something that he has to do. On the other hand, reward is the thing you give them for accomplishing something good.
It's like this, you give your child bribe just so the little brat does his homework. Another parents, who didn't bribe their child to study, treats their kids for receiving high grades at the end of the school year.
When children confuse bribe with reward, it can mess up their psychology. Oh, no! What if they confuse bribe with salary. Then, you'll get yourself a lazy unemployed employee.
Bribing a child teaches him to do something only if he receives a treat. If there's no bribe, that only means the kid don't have to do it.
It works on dogs, so could it be effective for children. The clear answer is NO! Well, a police certainly won't give a person a treat just to stop him from doing that bad thing, but most certainly he'll get himself arrested.
Some things just doesn't go by your way.
A child's brain is at it's formative years. It's at this period that they develop important traits.
Their are rules they have to go by, be it household rules or state law. Their are homeworks they have to finish. They have to learn that money don't sprout from nothing. Anyways, do you, as parents, want to earn their respect or not?
A vicious cycle
Once you bribe your child to behave or do homework, it can backfire. This can start a vicious cycle. Just hang on until your child becomes a teenager, it'll be pure terror.
What if my child is having a temper tantrum
I know it's hard not to give in especially when you're dealing with your child's rage. You have to know what to do in this situation.
When your child is having a temper tantrum, you have to stay with the child and prevent him from inflicting himself harm, until the tantrum ends. Keep away blunt objects. You have to keep yourself calm so you don't end up yelling which can aggravate the matter.
Tantrum is just your child's way of handing that extreme emotion inside of him. It's common in toddlers and preschoolers. Given time and nurture, your child will be mature enough to handle it.
You do not want your child to handle the extreme emotions inside them with a bribe.
Who says being a parent is easy? Ultimately, it's down to parents to hone their child to be responsible and respectable adults.
